'in the mind of valerie' by Valerie-Pearl Oyo II

If your kindness depends on appreciation, what happens when the appreciation never comes?Let’s talk about being good without needing validation.

A couple of years ago, I said Valentine’s Day was pointless. I didn’t see the need for one “special” day to celebrate love. But with time, I realized something deeper, sometimes we block love not because we don’t believe in it, but because we’re afraid of being disappointed.

it’s my birthday🎉

Sometimes we think fragility makes us weak. But even a trembling voice, even the softest threads, can stitch broken places back together. This episode is a gentle reminder that your fragility is not something to hide it’s a gift that heals.

Sometimes the strongest faith isn’t loud it’s the quiet trust that refuses to let go. Join Valerie as she unpacks the difference between belief and faith, and the power of choosing trust in the silence.

In this raw reflection, we explore the freedom that comes with releasing the unspoken rules we hold over others, why we expect to be seen, heard, and loved in specific ways, and how those very expectations set us up for pain. Learn how to distinguish between mind-reading and genuine needs, how to ask boldly or let go quietly, and why the most peaceful relationships are those where you expect nothin but receive everything. If you’ve ever felt the ache of unmet hopes, this is your invitation to lay them down.

Language isn’t just about words—it’s about intention. In this episode, we dive into why phrases like ‘thanks’ instead of ‘thank you,’ ‘love you’ instead of ‘I love you,’ and ‘sorry’ instead of ‘I’m sorry’ can leave relationships feeling hollow. These half-phrases might seem small, but they carry weight. I’ll share why I refuse to accept them and why you should, too. Discover how words can deepen connection, honor effort, and rebuild sincerity in a world starving for authenticity. Say it whole, or don’t say it at all.

Join me as I share a personal journey of shifting focus from grand, flashy achievements to the tiny, often overlooked wins that truly fuel our motivation and confidence.

Have you ever been your own harshest critic?

You probably think this has to do with Chemistry. I know, who titles an episode “chain reaction”?

This episode is a reminder of one of the many parables in the Bible. Hopefully you get to enjoy this one --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itmov/message

This episode is just urging us to to give people the chance to be honest with us. I hope this meets you well. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itmov/message

Listen in as Valerie talks about the need of showing compassion/ grace to not just the people around us but to our own selves as well.

Listen in as Valerie talks about showing grace/ kindness and compassion to not not just others but to one’s own self too.

There’s a song you should listen to just after being here, Austin French — Rest For Your Soul. I honestly hope this episode meets you well.

This is yet another episode with Elon Mackenzas on the topic Grief. I hope this episode meets strikes close to home.

It’s a new year and since some of us are doing this new year, new me thing or “no gree for anybody” thing, i think it is only wise that you prepare yourselves for the mistakes that are bound to happen on the way. Listen in🥰

This episode tries to leave you with a different perspective/ view of the saying “Life is Short”.

I called it “Reverie” because the episode has to do with me thinking out loud. It’s about ‘Love Languages’, anyway. I hope you enjoy this one.

Listen in as Valerie shares her two cents in this week’s episode. Enjoy!

There’s a certain kind of peace I want to experience in my life. That kind of peace that makes no sense. The very one that keeps you in wonder. That one that feels surreal and bizarre/strange. Listen in.

There’s something about reliance or dependence. Say you’re relying on someone for a particular thing to pull through. Say without this person you feel it won’t be possible or this person has or holds the keys to your big break. Listen in as Valerie shares honest thoughts.

Valerie has a beautiful conversation with an amazing personality— Msugh Anom, who is a singer/songwriter, a teacher, husband and father. He shares his two cents on parenting, his music and life in general. The music played in the beginning is from his debut album “More Than Meets The Eye” and the song is called “Praise”. I hope you enjoy the episode as much as we enjoyed recording.

This episode explores ‘Multipotentiality’. I hope you learn something new from this episode. The song playing is from FadaBen’s project “The Introduction” and it’s called “I Forgive You”, you can find it and more on all major streaming platforms.

This episode promises to be mind blowing as Valerie had a wonderful conversation with UK based performance poet and writer — Joshua Idehen. Some of his songs played in this episode; “Field Negus” and “I Got You Every Step of the Way” can be found on any of your favorite streaming platforms. Do well to also listen to his new project called ‘Best Kind of Lost’. With my heart, I hope you enjoy this episode as we enjoyed making it. Before I forget, Joshua recited a poem too😁

Valerie had an amazing conversation with singer and songwriter- Prithvi Prajosh, who happens to be Indian but resides in LA. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did recording.

This episode debunks the theory of familiarity and availability breeding a drop in value. Valerie’s main focus is in friendships/ relationships. I hope you find this episode interesting and useful.

Listen in as Valerie converses with Lawrence Udeigwe, who is a Maths Professor and a Jazz Musician in New York. He shared a lot of insightful and exciting stories about his journey and career. You can find him on instagram @lawrenceudeigwe. I hope you enjoy this episode😁

Happy New Year, amigo!!! In this episode, Valerie shared thoughts on the importance of deciphering if an advice is good enough for you to take or not. The beautiful background music was composed by the very best and you can find him on IG @emmeoogwuche

This episode talks about inferior complex, how it affects a person and also how it can be managed. My guest, Nonzo Bassey was very open and guess what? Before leaving my mind, he sang a beautiful song from his coming project. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did making it.

This episode episode just share what Valerie has noticed with her womenfolk and it encourages them do be nicer to one another. I hope you enjoy it.

It’s my birthday today and this episode just gives you an insight of my mind as usual.

Listen in as Valerie talks about one of the most neglected type of space, the public space, and how to behave in these shared spaces. I hope you enjoy this episode.

This episode just talks about not trying to force things.

I’ve realized that in other to feel “consistent” we tend to mount unnecessary pressure on ourselves. The intention of this episode is only to make you see “Consistency” in a different way. Share this episode with your friends and if they use Spotify or Apple Podcasts, ask them to give us a rating.

Listen in as Valerie talks about Letting people react just the way they deem fit. I hope you enjoy this episode. New episode every Mondays, 7pm.

Guilt and Regret, I believe, are feelings that a lot of people don’t get to fully understand. I hope you enjoy this episode. New episode: Mondays, 7pm.

This episode is a very delicate one for me because it’s something I’m trying to get totally free from. If you or someone you know is going through this advice them to seek help or be that help. New episode every Monday 7pm

How true is this “Hate dwells in a place love once was”? I would want to hear your thoughts too.

YES, I called it “Nike” when I didn’t even talk about “Nike”. I just couldn’t help but borrow the brand’s slogan “Just Do It”. I hope this episode finds you well🙂🙂

Listen in to know “the crown” to duck😁. The background music was composed for us specially by a very good friend— Jesam Bassey, it’ll be our official music henceforth. I hope you enjoy this episode😊

Listen in as Valerie talks about Criticism, it’s types and using it to your advantage.

Listen in as Valerie shares why it's always important to remember the reason you started. Make sure you always look towards the road ahead of you, but also remember why you started in the first place! And finally, do not wait to get ready before you start.

The little gestures matter too. I hope you enjoy this episode.

Is it just me or you also think this Valentine’s day thing is overrated? You’re free to send in your thoughts too. Enjoy😊

It’s self explanatory, amigo. I hope you enjoy this episode.

Listen to Manny Okonko share his thoughts on the question about music.

The series — Extroverted Convos intends to connect with a lot of people, get inside their heads/ minds, meet new people, create new bonds too and just have random conversations. This series would be published every Month.

The series — Extroverted Convos intends to connect with a lot of people, get inside their heads/ minds, meet new people, create new bonds too and just have random conversations. This series would be published once a month. The episode has Aniebietabasi, interviewing random people in Uyo. I hope you enjoy this one😁

This episode has Valerie talking about the need and ways to be intentional in 2022.

Rituals are crucial sometimes to how you start your day, here you'll come across how I start my day. And I also talked about my recent rejection. Enjoy😁

Listen in as Valerie talks about what to expect this season, as well as her thoughts on singing competition auditions like The Voice, Project Fame, Nigerian Idol, and others with Glory Chris & Mannie Okonko.

Listen to my good friend Rodney, join in on the conversation about sex. I hope you find this enlightening!

As you are aware, the last two episodes have been about "Sex". If you listened to the episodes I mentioned that a listener could also join in on the conversation and it would be published as a bonus. This is the host of "The Anatomy of Josh's Thoughts" podcast, you are free to check his episodes out, they are too amazing. Enjoy!

Listen in as friends of Valerie share their views on sex. Kenzy D. , Collins N. & Raymond A. I hope you enjoy this beautiful talk.

Listen as as Valerie and others talk about sex. A few questions were asked and Imoh, official Belletti & Olive shared their honest views on the subject matter. Follow on IG: @truthsinb.w & @inthemindofvalerie.pod

Listen in as Valerie talks about those three words. I hope you enjoy the episode.

Here, I correct a common line that is mostly used by 'lovers' which I'm also guilty of using😂 . Music : Serpentwithfeet— Derrick's Beard

Listen in as Valerie reads one of her favorite poem "Counting the Beats" and also talks about counting blessings. What are you grateful for?

In this episode Wisdom & Valerie discuss everything, from women and politics to matters of the heart, books as well as movies. Enjoy 🙃

Here, i talked about three lessons i learned this week. The music playing is ‘What a Wonderful World’ by Louis Armstrong because truly it is a wonderful world. I hope you enjoy this one. You could also tell me what you learnt this week via voice notes😁

Well, in this episode Valerie diverted from the topic just a little in the beginning, don't worry, it was intentional 😂. Song Credit: 1. The Hunts— Years 2. The Hunts— Standing Small.

Listen in as Valerie talks about sharing problems. It's a good thing to share your problems with someone you trust. But before doing that be sure the person is ready to take tbat load. And before compelling someone to share his/her problems be sure you're ready to carry that weight.

Listen in as Valerie reminds you that times change. I hope this episode meetd you well. Song: Little Richard: (There Will be) Peace in the Valley.

Listen in as Valerie shares with you things on her mind— podiversary, people, death. Be sure to jot things down😉. IG: @truthsinb.w, @inthemindofvalerie.pod

Listen in as Valerie talks about her childish years, experiences and lessons. Note: you could as well send/give shout-outs to your friends in primary/secondary school, those friends that made your life in school worthwhile when you're sharing your own experiences.

Listen in as Valerie explains the word "Self-Made" in simple and clear words. This episode also explains that no one can make it in life alone. I hope you enjoy it. I'll like to hear from you as well, share your thoughts with me when you're done listening.

This is an episode that tells you Valerie doesn't have life all figured out and just like you she's still only learning.

This episode just summarizes two of the many lessons I've learnt this week. Enjoy!

A song by Mary Mary rings in my head whenever I feel like giving up and it's called 'Can' Give Up Now'. I hope this episode brings you the light you deserve.

of how many times you've been hurt.

Listen to Valerie read you a story from the book 'Not Even God is Ripe Enough' by Bakare Gbadamosi & Ulli Beier. The story is titled 'When Life is Good for us we Become Bad'. I hope you really enjoy this one.

You must have heard before that life is not a competition or a race. Life is journey, a process. This is a beautiful episode, i hope it resonates with you.

Sometimes what really matters is the thought and not always the act. I hope this episode meets you well.

Two things make you grow. Listen to know those things 😏😁

Listen to what Jiggy had to say about our last episode 😁

If you listened to S03E01 you'd understand better. Incase you have something to say, do well to send a voice note. Don't be shy😁.

"To live a joyful life doesn't mean that you are happy always, it means you are able to process all the emotions that come to you in the right proportion" — Chude Jideowo. I hope this season blesses you 🙂.

We tend to neglect the healing process of depression. Listen to Valerie team up with the host of 'iHearsay' podcast— Fav, as we talk about this.

This episode is me telling you to joke with caution. Think first. Think carefully before you speak. Ask yourself questions, self-evaluate. "If these words/things were said to me, how would I feel?". Ask yourself.

This episode is about growth being a decision only you can make. Have you ever felt stuck? As if your life is stagnant? Then you really need to listen to this episode 😁.

This episode explains how one could create happiness instead of just choosing it.

You don't have to wait to be in a relationship before you can tell people just how much you love them. Time doesn't wait, do it now. So I'm wondering, should I call this episode "Love and Constancy Part 2? Ps: it's an 'Unscripted' episode 😁😂

Give to the people around you little reminders that they mean more to you. These reminders are called gifts of affirmations, learn to give these gifts.

Listen to know why you shouldn't always mind your business. Song: John Mayer— The Search For Everything

This is about you choosing to stay sane. I hope this meets you well 😊. Song: Moses Sumney— Doomed

Silent treatment is a coward's game.

I burnt myself. I did it.

Time would not care if you're sleeping or working. It just keeps ticking. Life is really short yet beautiful. This is an episode that encourages you to live life to the fullest regardless of the difficulties you might be facing. Song: HAEVN: Throw Me A Line.

We need to learn to care for people's properties. I hope you enjoy this episode 😊.

Listen to me talk about loving your scars.

Have you ever felt as though no one is appreciating you enough? Then listen to this episode.

This episode is about new year resolutions and long term goals. Happy listening 😁!

We all have our thoughts. Listen to Victor share his thoughts on the causes of depression.

Listen to Olive talk about some causes of depression and ways to control it.

Listen to the host of 'IHearsay' Podcast talk to you about some causes of depression and how to control it.

Listen to Collins take about short term goals.

He highlighted some causes of depression especially in teenagers, 'pressure' was also mentioned here. I hope you enjoy this as much as I did😊.

Listen as Cephas talks to us about depression. Happy listening!

Depression? When the world is supposed to be merry? Find out why i chose this topic. Merry Christmas 🔥😋