20 things adoption podcast with sherrie eldridge by Copyright, @SherrieEldridge2025
Last Updated: June 15, 2026
Many adoptive, foster, stepmoms, and grandmothers are suffering in silence. No one in the world of adoption is giving them the tools for recovery. No one is teaching them how to handle adoptee pushback and rejection. No one is wrapping arms around them and praying when all they can do is cry.
When moms realize the unknown depth of their child’s trauma, a common reaction is self-doubt. If she doesn’t know what happened, how can she find words to help her child process it? It’s terrifying, like climbing Everest without ropes.
She's so self-doubting that she almost always concludes that she doesn't have what it takes to parent her child. Truth be known, she looks over the cliffs of depression more times than she'd care to admit.
I’m a loser mom.
I can’t self-regulate, let alone teach my child to do the same.
I can’t attach with my child...and I never will have it.
I am inept as a
Adoptees Share the Honest Reality of Having Two Moms
Dr. Ronald Nydam Explains Why Adoptees Can't Attach Fully
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Dr. Ronald Nydam is a specialist in the field of adoption as a pastor, author, speaker, counselor, and teacher. His area of expertise is explaining the differences between adoption and relinquishment, while emphasizing that most people don't understand the depth of the power of relinquishment for the entire adoption triad. Dr. Nydam helps listeners understand that relinquishment sets in place the adoptee's distorted perceptions of both first and adoptive moms. Is there hope for recovery amidst these relationships? You bet!
Dafna Lender, LCSW., Shares What Kind of Therapy Many Adopted Kids Really Need
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Dafna is a child and family therapist with over 20 years of experience. She is a certified trainer, supervisor, and consultant in Theraplay® and Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy, and coauthor of Theraplay: The Practitioner’s Guide. Dafna has successfully treated children and their parents with a variety of backgrounds, including children raised in orphanages, with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder, exposed to domestic violence and community violence and children of parents with chronic mental illness and attachment wounds. Dafna provides trainings and consultations for psychologists and psychotherapists around the world.
